This blog is about something that I've seen a lot lately with people and the way they live their lives.
I find that this is one of the critical pieces to living a happy life and a life that you feel good about.
This is the idea that people don't want to put themselves first and they don't want to focus on their happiness. When in reality YOU should always be number one!
People seem to always want to sacrifice what they have to help other people be happy.
Or make their family happy in what they see as a noble pursuit of being a good person.
Don't get me wrong it's noble, but it's often at the detriment to your own happiness.
With that being said how can you expect to make others happy if you can't be happy yourself?
What you have to look at is the idea that if you're not happy.
You are going to project that unhappiness to everybody else around you.
The people who you project this on are not going to want to be around you due to the unhappy way you now make them feel.
All due to the noble intention of wanting to put others first or before their own happiness.
As you go through life you have to focus on doing things that make you happy first
Pursue your happiness above all else and make sure you're number one
Then when you're in a good place take on the noble pursuit of helping others
And working to make them and even those in your family happy.
It takes a certain level of commitment to focus on you if you have not been doing it for a while or ever.
You have to take a step back and work to understand who you are and what you like to do
Then make the commitment to do it daily, or weekly and be consistent with it. It shouldn't be hard to make the commitment to doing the things you want to do and to focus on your happiness.
If you can't find little things that make you happy to get through every day life then you're going to be miserable.
And you're going to project that miserable persona onto:
Your significant others
Your coworkers at work
Everybody is going to think you're a miserable person and nobody wants to be around miserable people.
Because they ruin the mood and bring everyone down.
Your happiness is literally tied to the happiness of those around you
Once you realize this you will understand why it's so important for you to be happy first!
So be less miserable in your life
And start thinking about what you can do every day for an hour to make yourself happy.
Maybe that's trying a new sport once a week...
Maybe it's doing a dance class you've always want to do
Maybe it's going for lunch by yourself and reading a new book. But the point here is that you need to do something for YOU first every single day.
Because if you’re not happy then you have no place putting others first
Ultimately you have to live in your own skin
And that life should be a life you feel good about before you try to make others feel good about theirs!