I'm not good enough, I'm not skilled enough, that person is a jerk!
All of these are stories you create in our own head and based on the situations you experience in your life.
These situations reshape and redefine the world you see and your thoughts on the people in it.
You can go through life hating someone because of any issues you had with them years ago.
The big reason you carry that hate is that you've created a story in your head that you were in the right in the current situation.
You do this to justify your part in the situation and to place yourself in a place of goodwill rather than seeing it from an objective position.
This becomes a big problem when trying to interact with coworkers, repair relationship, and it's a significant problem when trying to be a good leader.
All of these require empathy and stepping outside of your own head to find and identify the stories people create in their heads.
In this episode, I talk about how you can step outside of your own and the incredible amount of power it gives you to become a better human and a fantastic leader!